Dont Ask Me Brother

Trying to have a successful relationship can be a challenge for anyone. There is no one size fits all relationship or relationship advice. There are, however, some relationship and woman advice that can help women find, and keep, that great relationship they've been looking for.

As odd as it might sound, if you want a good relationship the first person you have to worry about is you. Too many women are looking for the wrong thing and for the wrong reasons.

Everyone wants to feel liked, loved, desired, and respected. That's a wonderful thing to find. But too many women don't feel they have any worth unless they are in a romantic relationship, and that's where the trouble starts.

You see it goes a little like this: a lonely insecure woman who feels desperate for the love of a man will put off 'desperate vibes'. The only kind of man she is going to attract is an insecure man who needs to control the women in his life so he can feel important. The two will enter into a twisted co-dependent relationship that won't be truly be satisfying to either one.

That is why it is vital that any woman who is looking for a serious relationship take a long hard, and possibly painful, look at herself. It's not that she's not good enough, it's just that she doesn't think she's good enough. Until she realizes her own worth she will continue to attract the wrong type of men, be subject to some level of abuse whether verbal, emotional, or much worse, and will never really get the love she wants and deserves.

And the abuse in this type of situation is virtually guaranteed. You have to understand that a decent secure man will never be attracted to an insecure desperate woman. So that only leaves the kind of men that don't know any other way than to abuse women.

They may not physically abuse them, and it may not even be real overt, but the abuse will be there. He will onstantly be making snide and hurtful comments about her looks, her weight, her cooking, her housekeeping, or her lovemaking... and that is abuse.

Then after suffering from that abuse over a period of time women will only have lower self esteem and even if they break up with their partner the cycle will continue, only it will probably be worse since her self esteem is so much lower than before.

You can nip this problem in the bud. Just slow down, take some time to make sure you are the woman of your dreams. Make sure you are the type of woman you truly want to be, strong, confident, capable. If you need some help to get to that point don't hesitate to find a good therapist and enlist their help.

It might take time but it will be time well spent. If you truly want to have a lifetime of love and fulfillment you need to make sure you are the kind of woman who 'demands' it. Not by stomping your feet or becoming a shrew, but by being strong and capable and knowing that you deserve the very best. When you become that type of woman than you will attract the type of man that can truly make you happy.

Even though it might not be what some people want to hear, I hope that this relationship woman advice is taken to heart. I've seen the pattern above repeated with a dear friend of mine and she's in yet another lousy relationship with an insecure guy who makes himself feel like a big man by knocking her down. She, and you, can do much, much better.